“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
What are some of your favorite affirmations? We all know that affirmations are statements that we make to the self.
The dictionary defines affirmation as “the action or process of affirming something or being affirmed.”
Some of the synonyms of the word affirmation:
Affirmations can be empowering but often they can also be disempowering.
Why are affirmations important? The self-dialogue that goes on in our minds can often be the source of much suffering and stress.
Consider the following:
- Are you your worst critic?
- Do you have an inner voice that reminds you that you are not good enough?
- Does your mind repeat statements that do not serve you?
- Do you feel powerless sometimes against the negative self-talk and the barrage of mental chaos?
If you are like me, you may have had a difficult time with critical and judgmental self-talk. Now some of that stuff is all right and you can dismiss it as part of life. But if it gets to be dominant, you may experience stress and low self-image.
Perfectionism is the self-talk that many of us struggle with. I struggled with perfectionism in my own life where nothing I did was “good enough.” Over the years, I have become aware of the folly of negative and critical self-talk.
Now before you dismiss affirmations as new age talk, let me present a scientific study:
The University of Pittsburgh study shows that self-affirmation improves problem solving abilities under conditions of great stress.
The title of the study is “Self-Affirmation Improves Problem-Solving under Stress” by Levine et al. (2013).
Eighty undergraduates indicated the amount of chronic stress that they perceived themselves as having over the previous month. Researchers divided the students randomly into a self-affirmation group and a control group.
Participants wrote and ranked eleven important values for them such as art, family, and friends.
The self-affirmation group wrote down their first value and why they considered it to be important to them.
The participants ranked personal values and responded to and wrote an essay on why they thought it was important for them. This allows them to affirm a valued self-domain or characteristic.
The control group wrote down their ninth choice and why they thought that it was important to others.
The authors say:
“An emerging body of research suggests that self-affirmation may be one such effective stress management approach. Self-affirmation theory posits that the goal of the self is to protect one’s self-image when threatened and that one way to do this is through affirmation of valued sources of self-worth.”
Both control and self-affirmation groups rated the value as being important to them and how it had influenced their life.
The groups were then given a challenging performance task. The task required them to come up with a word that could be joined as a word pair with any of the three words already provided. They had twelve seconds to complete each task.
After completing the thirty problems, the researchers administered evaluation and stress level tests.
- People with chronically high stress performed worse than low stress individuals. They also had impaired problem-solving abilities.
- The self-affirmation group performed a lot better even if they were chronically stressed. They had better outcomes.
- Self-affirmation has stress reduction and protection effects in stress inducing and performance settings
- Self-affirmation may buffer the negative effects of chronic stress on real-life problem solving. These include settings that demand high performance.
Life involves varying degrees of stress and how we navigate that stress and function well will determine our joy and happiness. Science and studies show that self-affirmations can help.
A poor self-concept and a lack of self-belief is associated with feelings that do not empower you and often bring you down.
How to make your own affirmation:
A. Craft in personal words and in the present tense.
B. Use “I am” instead if I will or should.
C. Make it short and catchy.
D. Use words that ring true to you and are likely to happen. In other words, believable.
E. Mention solutions and not problems.
F. Use words for positive reinforcement and avoid usage of negative words.
G. Use words that evoke strong and empowering emotions and feelings.
Here are the affirmations that I have found to be useful:
Expanding into Your Greatness
“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better” – Émile Coué
You can also say:
“Every day, in every way, my life is getting better and better.”
I love this affirmation from Coué.
Coué was a French psychologist and pharmacist popular for his optimistic autosuggestion. This method is also called the Coué method. It involves repeating the above affirmation several times through the day.
I do not believe that the intention of this affirmation is to show that something is wrong with us and needs improving.
I believe what it intends is pure kaizen or a continuous state of reaching out for the best version of your self.
Cast aside the judgment of trying to “fix the self.” Instead, embrace empowerment and abundance with this powerful affirmation.
“I am successful in everything I do.”-Harish Kumar
Many of us have problems accepting and embracing our greatest successes.
Here are some affirmations that I use to make the arrival and blossoming of success natural and organic in my life:
“Today I receive great news and happy outcomes.”
“I think success, I feel success and I am success”
“I am expecting great success and results today.”
“I allow great success to come into my life.”
Express Your Natural Radiance
“I am Radiant In Body, Mind, Heart And Spirit.” – Harish Kumar
I love this affirmation and have used this for a while now to feel great. It encompasses the different levels and dimensions of a person’s well being-the mind, body and spirit.
This affirmation allows you to feel and express your natural radiance and tap into the source of well being.
Another great affirmation:
“I am Happy, I am Healthy, I am Wealthy.”
“I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.” ― Louise L. Hay
Years before when my perfectionism was raging, I came across the affirmations and soothing words of Louise Hay. It is said that when the student is ready, the teacher materializes.
Louise Hay is the creator of many wonderful affirmations including the one above and some more that I will mention in this post.
“I am Creating Work of Great Value” -Harish Kumar
I have found the above affirmation of creating great value to be immensely useful. When I feel like my work does not matter or why even bother, I remind and redirect my attention to providing great value to others.
My motto then becomes:
“Through giving and creating work that others find of benefit, may I learn the experiences of life.”
“In the infinity of life where I am, All is perfect, whole and complete, I no longer choose to believe in old limitations and lack, I now choose to begin to see myself as the Universe sees me — perfect, whole, and complete.” ― Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life
Is your mind is tricking you into the belief that you are not complete? Does your inner affirmation remind you that you are limited at every step and wherever you turn, you experience lack?
If limiting beliefs dominate your thinking, use the affirmation by Louise above. Choose to see the self as whole and complete. Remember that this in not a journey to “fix the self” but to “shine your brilliance” by letting go of limiting beliefs.
“I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in life, and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it”― Louise Hay
You are worthy of the best. You may believe that or you may have forgotten your true worth. The need to be unworthy takes root in our minds by the anchoring of ancient beliefs, the burden of which we may still be bearing after all these years.
How do you feel at this moment is always a great indicator of self-worth. I am not saying that we need to feel great all the time.
But, if you feel bad and disempowered about the self more than you feel empowered, I urge you to use the affirmation above.
“I choose to feel great now!”- Harish Kumar
“I embrace my creativity.”- Harish Kumar
This is a big one for many. You may not feel like you are a creative person. The reality is that we are all creative in our own unique way.
These affirmations that I use and created might help:
“I am a highly creative person.”
“I allow my creative expression.”
“I am unleashing my creativity for the world to enjoy.”
“I discover and express my unique blend of creativity.”
“I am unleashing massive action.”- Harish Kumar
You might say that affirmation is all talk and no action. So we have an answer for that. We are going to begin where all action originates: with a heartfelt and a mind generated intention.
To prime your mind and self towards greater action say the following:
“I love action! I am taking action right now.”
“I am allowing action to define my life.”
“My beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions are in consonance.”
“I am a positive action superheroine/hero in my own life.”
Gratitude and Appreciation
“I focus on appreciation and positive aspects.”- Harish Kumar
A life of deep gratitude and the appreciation of what you have in your life is a stepping stone for greater good. Let us be awash with feelings of deep heartfelt gratitude that remind us of how fortunate we are.
“I am deeply grateful for the good in my life.”
Letting Go and Relaxing
“I consciously let go of stress.”
This is another big one for many people. They find it difficult to relax because of all the negative ideas that jump from topic to topic in their head. Instead of trying to drop these thoughts, allow the self to choose relaxing affirmations.
“I allow myself to be deeply relaxed.”
“I am pure silence and peace.”
Now over to you! Let me know in the comments below of the post resonated with you. What is your favorite affirmation?